Brother Ray did a beautiful job of explaining what a strong word cleave is. That it is not just holding on to each other. It reminds me of watching a pair of ballroom dancers. The way they move together as one. And, yet at moments are not touching, they are still a pair. The almost desperate look on their faces as they cling to each other. I have learned many lessons about marriage from both my first and current ones. One of those is that one spouse is not more important than the other. They both play their own roles in the house. I am old school on some things. Mostly because the most successful and "functional" families that I have been exposed to followed the same pattern. The husband has a place as head of the household. But, the wife runs it. One does not function well without the other. I should have remembered this my first time around. I out myself in the roll of subservient. I am trying to find the fine line of being a leader in the home without taking over. It is not always easy. But, it always makes for a far more open and honest relationship with your spouse.
Meek. Some people consider this word to mean weak. It does not. Brother Ray used a great analogy of a horse with a bit and a bridle. The horse has tremendous power. And, it could unleash it at any time. The horse chooses to follow the rider. The horse is no way weak. Rather it is meek. Other people listen may have taken the sermon to mean that we need to work on being meek. To me, it said it is ok to be meek. I have finally developed some backbone. But, I worry that I will take advantage of my spouse. Part of having power in your marriage is to know when and how to use it. Yelling and forcing your way is just as irresponsible as sitting back and not saying or doing anything. It is not your marriage alone. You share the contract with your spouse. So, it is your job to work together. If you do not share the load, misery and dysfunction will follow. This means respecting your spouse and their opinions. When your spouse says we can not afford to buy something, sit down and talk about it. It breaks my heart to hear someone say, "Well, I am just going to do it anyway."
I am just hoping that Jerry and I can find a church home together that will help our family will thrive and grow. Prayers for our journey will be appreciated as neither of us has ever done this before. And, that others will be considerate. Sometimes, it is hard for to let a church member go without worrying that someone has done something to make them leave. I will be praying for my now former church that God will bless them and pour his peace, love and growth over the church body. The following piece of scripture was part of the sermon. I hope that it will help you find some peace as well.
or be envious of those who do wrong;
2 for like the grass they will soon wither,
like green plants they will soon die away.
dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture.
4 Take delight in the Lord,
and he will give you the desires of your heart.
trust in him and he will do this:
6 He will make your righteous reward shine like the dawn,
your vindication like the noonday sun.
and wait patiently for him;
do not fret when people succeed in their ways,
when they carry out their wicked schemes.
do not fret—it leads only to evil.
9 For those who are evil will be destroyed,
but those who hope in the Lord will inherit the land.
though you look for them, they will not be found.
11 But the meek will inherit the land
and enjoy peace and prosperity.
and gnash their teeth at them;
13 but the Lord laughs at the wicked,
for he knows their day is coming.
and bend the bow
to bring down the poor and needy,
to slay those whose ways are upright.
15 But their swords will pierce their own hearts,
and their bows will be broken.
than the wealth of many wicked;
17 for the power of the wicked will be broken,
but the Lord upholds the righteous.
and their inheritance will endure forever.
19 In times of disaster they will not wither;
in days of famine they will enjoy plenty.
Though the Lord’s enemies are like the flowers of the field,
they will be consumed, they will go up in smoke.
but the righteous give generously;
22 those the Lord blesses will inherit the land,
but those he curses will be destroyed.
of the one who delights in him;
24 though he may stumble, he will not fall,
for the Lord upholds him with his hand.
yet I have never seen the righteous forsaken
or their children begging bread.
26 They are always generous and lend freely;
their children will be a blessing.
then you will dwell in the land forever.
28 For the Lord loves the just
and will not forsake his faithful ones.
the offspring of the wicked will perish.
29 The righteous will inherit the land
and dwell in it forever.
and their tongues speak what is just.
31 The law of their God is in their hearts;
their feet do not slip.
intent on putting them to death;
33 but the Lord will not leave them in the power of the wicked
or let them be condemned when brought to trial.
and keep his way.
He will exalt you to inherit the land;
when the wicked are destroyed, you will see it.
flourishing like a luxuriant native tree,
36 but he soon passed away and was no more;
though I looked for him, he could not be found.
a future awaits those who seek peace.
38 But all sinners will be destroyed;
there will be no future for the wicked.
he is their stronghold in time of trouble.
40 The Lord helps them and delivers them;
he delivers them from the wicked and saves them,
because they take refuge in him.